The challenges of dating
The challenges of dating"The Challenges of Dating after Divorce"
According to the Bureau of Vital Statistics approximately 50.1% of
all first marriages in the United States end in divorce. Because of
the high divorce rate men and women are finding themselves going
back to the challenging world of dating at an enormous rate.
Divorce men and women find dating to be an extremely challenging
and difficult task. You once again have to deal with issues such
as trust,age differences, and financial status. Entering the
dating world again after as many as fifteen to twenty years is difficult, and extremely challenging. You have to once again find someone that you can trust and trust you as well. You have to be able to trust this person in every area of your life. You have to trust him/her with your children, your friends, and financial decisions. Children are the most important people in one's life. When dating you have to be sure he/she feels the same way about his/her children. Loving their children may not guarantee that
they will love yours; however,chances are if a person does not
want harm to come to his/her children then they would likely feel
the same when it comes to yours. The person you choose to date
will have to understand and trust that your friends, whether male
or female are just platonic friends. Some people have more friends of the opposite sex than others. In factbecause people get along better with the opposite sex,the person you date should not be jealous of the closeness you have with your friends. Jealousy
plays a key role in destroying a relationship. I, for example, have more male friends that females; in fact, I find it easier to talk
to men. My male friends are more willing to encourage and
contribute with achieving my goals whether the goal is to lose
weight or obtain a degree. You also have to trust that person you get involved with will not take advantage of the fact that you are more financially stable than he/she is. Trusting a person whether dating or in a long term relationship is very important, without trust the relationship wil not have purpose. In recent months,
there has been much hullabaloo about the virtues of women dating
and marrying younger men. Terry McMillan's popular book and ubsequent movie "How Stella Got Her Groove Back", has inspired
women around the globe to seek and openly praise the positives of
the younger male. Through the centuries it has not been uncommon
for women to marry men old enough to be their fathers. The younger woman older man union is and long has been more of the norm as far
as romantic matches go. Some say that age is nothing but a number
although that is true nobody wants to date an immature person who
cannot handle the issues that come with a relationship. A person shouldn't date on the bases of another's financial status, but it
does help when you meet a person that is financially secure and
independent. You will be more secure with a person who is economically stable and makes logical financial decisions. No one
wants to be with a person that's always depends on another to foot
the bill. Overall we are all in search of "Mr./Mrs.Right" no
matter how many challenges we have to face in this search we are
willing because we know that he/she is out there. We are
determined to travel the road no matter how crooked and how long it
may be; it's our destiny for we are not meant to be alone.