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SEX...as it is(kind of long but worth the read)In all cultures and societies, only women can be thought of as \"sluts\" or \"whores\", never men. Women are universally condemned even for the hint of promiscuity while it\'s almost accepted behavior for men (e.g., only women were stoned for adultery, not men). Many contend that culture is to blame for the double standard, but maybe only indirectly in a subtle way...
There\'s simply a fundamental difference in sexual libido between men and women in general. As one comedian put it, \"when women think they\'re horny, they\'re like men are when they aren\'t even thinking about sex!\". The obvious difference is that male lust is activated and fixated visually on the stereotyped female physique (large breasts, wide hips, long legs, buttocks and a pretty face); it\'s comparable to the \"hunger\" inspired by the sight of food. The mere sight of an attractive woman alone is enough to sexually arouse a man- erection and feeling of sexual lust- within seconds. Sexual intercourse is also extremely pleasurable for men because of the sensitized nerve endings of the penis; and most men can quickly achieve orgasm within a few minutes (followed by a period of refraction- loss of sexual appetite- and exhaustion, which is why men fall asleep after sex). To be blunt, sexual lust is a fundamental drive in men with priority only after thirst, hunger, sleep, health and physical safety. For women, though, sex is more like a \"hobby\". Now certainly, many are greatly enthused and even fanatical about their avocations (dancing, golf, jogging, surfing, skiing, tennis, stamp collecting, etc.); but there can be no real comparison between enthusiasm for a hobby, say, and genuine thirst for water.
Certainly, women appreciate \"good-looking\" men (and women); but women don\'t lust visually for the male physique. In men, after puberty, male hormones activate a part of the brain that is attuned to the female physique. Women have the same part of the brain too, but if activated, it\'d be focused on female anatomy too. So if women were to lust for anyone, it\'d be for other women (which would happen if they had sufficient male hormones). But female sex hormones don\'t produce an equivalent visual lust for the male physique; in other words, women simply don\'t lust for men or desire sex as men do. It\'s never been a case of women \"teasing\" men, i.e., withholding sex from men while secretly wanting it just as bad as men do except in escapist (male fantasy) pornography. So the \"Hugh Hefner\" philosophy that \"nice girls desire and enjoy sex as much as men do\" is simply untrue, but it\'s a convenient philosophy to have in order to justify philandering.
Women are sexually \"aroused\" by physical stimulation- foreplay- a long process (15-20 minutes) compared to a few seconds for a man. The sight of a naked man simply doesn\'t \"do it\" for women; compare the sheer overwhelming # of porn magazines of nude women vs. Playgirl...
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