Internet relationships
Internet relationshipsInternet Relationships
In the not too distant past, when a guy wanted to meet a girl, he would go to the singles bar, find an attractive girl and strike up enough nerve to go and talk to her. If things go well he would get the phone number and they would start a relationship in that fashion.. Now with the advances of technology people are meeting people in new, different ways. With the internet came instant communication with anyone else in the world with the same internet connection . All of a sudden people were in chat rooms and communicating with the same people all the time. Sometimes the conversations would lead to a deeper level and then one chatter professes his/her love for the other and all of a sudden an internet relationship is taking place. Time goes by and they meet offline somewhere and go from there. Although to many internet romances seem very unlikley more and more people are meeting their loved ones through this meduim.
How can someone start an online relationship and have it feel so deep and intimate so fast? Online affairs shift the emphasis in a relationship from outward appearances and superficail conversations to inner thoughts and feelings each person has. When the only thing you can do is communicate, things can get deep quickly. Many times people cannot share the superfical things because they don't share those things. You cannot complain about your friend and have them know that person. One cannot speak of your boss and his stupidity. You can speak of those things, but the other person does not get the whole story, only your side. This also is a major part of internet relationships. One can disclose alot of personal information and their deep thoughts and fears about their peers without being fully judged or persecuted for thier thoughts. The person feels he/she can disclose more because they know that the other person will probably never meet any of the people you discuss. All your online friend can do s sympathize with you and talk with you and help you feel better.
Support is a big thing for internet relationships. Many times the person in question has no support group at home or amongt their friends. Online there are countless number of people who have been in the same shoes as you have and know EXACTY how it feels to have, whatever the case may be, that situation happen to them. They can relate, they can sympathize, they can offer resources that may help. They can be their to pat you on the back. If you go to olmost any big health site you'll see a section call "boards" where people discuss the topic board and converse with one another through little notes attatched to threads. Reading through some I saw many, "You go girl", and "Keep it up, you'll lose that weight". In some ways I would think that this would feel inadeaqute...
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